10 Must have Principals for Love
I am willing to...
1.
Ask questions, stay open and curious over making assumptions.
2.
Self Enquire around the meaning and judgments I project onto situations.
3.
Become aware of when I take things personally that cause patterns of mistrust, blame and conflict.
4.
Let go of the image in my head of how I think my partner 'should' show up. Grieve out the ‘life story’ I have imagined to get love and approval so I no longer unconsciously control my partner to live up to my personal/relationship narratives.
5.
Unravel out of the expectations and entitlement patterns that block genuine appreciation, joy and expressing love.
6.
Drop my defences in arguments (the war) and come to you undefended in my listening and an openness to ask questions for clarity and understanding.
7.
Be radically honest with myself and others as our foundation of relating rather than trying to find stability in beliefs and assumptions.
8.
Give of myself (and receive in my giving) rather than waiting, hoping or expecting. (It's all about being invitational baby)
9.
Breathe and relax when I'm triggered which can break unconscious patterns and behaviour leaving room for more respectful communication and 'off script' responses.
10.
Get skilled up in how to deal with & transform personal triggers, judgements, psychological fear and communication conflict in relationships.
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In love and service,
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